Divorce today to many is a tragic situation; families and children are split up and generally the word divorce comes with negative connotations. There are many articles out there that say that divorce has a bad effect on children, but there are just as many articles out there that say the exact opposite. To me, the media has always portrayed divorce as a awful thing. When I started researching over both sides of the topic, I was surprised to find the amount of articles saying that divorce has positive impacts on children.
An article written by Lauren Hansen called “9 negative effects divorce reportedly has on children,” talks about 9 different ways that children are affected with divorce. The 9 effects are: increased smoking habits, ritalin use, poor math and social skills, increased chance of sickness, increased chance of dropping out of school, more likely to commit a crime, higher risk of a stroke, greater chance of getting a divorce and lastly a possible early death. This evidence is definitely possible and can happen but now a days there are so many divorces that these effects, since they are on the extreme side of things, might not be as likely anymore. Children now a days are surrounded more and more with divorces, unfortunately in our society today it is almost a norm. Though these effects are all possible, how much it may affect each different child are all going to be different.
Another article called “Divorce and Kids: 5 ways divorce benefits kids,” written by Dr. Shoshana talks about different ways that divorce can be good for children. The first reason they talk about is, when a child see that each individual parent is happier this in turn will make the child happer. If the parents are always fighting that might lead to the child being unhappy as well. Secondly, when the tension in the house is gone that will make the environment less crazy and the kids will be able to function better. Third, kids need to know that every parent needs a supporting partner so the fact that the parent is showing them that they need a good partner is good. Fourth, having a shared custody the kids would be able to experience both sides of the parents without them fighting. Lastly, since the parents are not together anymore there is potential for the kids to witness happiness for the parent either being on their own or finding a new partner to be with.
All in all, these are the ways that kids can both benefit and not benefit from a divorce. In today’s society the norm for a divorce is that it is always such a bad thing but in reality it doesn’t really have to be that way at all, there are many things that kids see that end up being a positive thing and end up being worth while in the end.